So according to the media, black married fathers are in short supply. Black supportive fathers as a whole are in short supply. This troubles me. Not only because this slants my race and gender in a bad way but because I am a young married black father among many that are probably going unnoticed. It seems cool to have kids and not support them or for a woman to say that she has a ‘baby daddy’ and not a husband. that’s if you let the media tell it. But does this reflect life or does life reflect this? do young black males think this is okay because it’s perpetuated on television or is TV just picking up on what’s really happening? Either way this is wrong.
I was watching Maury the other day and the topic of the show was about women testing various men to find out who the father of their child is because they didn’t know. This saddens me. The women were on the show giving their sob story of how they slept with these men and they weren’t sure who the father was and how it was going to ruin their marriage or relationships. Boo hoo, cry me a fucking river! I apologize if I’m not sympathetic to the fact that you can’t be faithful in a relationship and keep your legs closed. I’m sorry, I’m not buying your crocodile tears. You’ve tested all these men and you still don’t know who the father is? C’mon son!!
And the guys are no better. We have to be fathers to our children. Going out there having all these kids with no intent on taking care of them has to stop! This is not a game. This is real life and real people’s lives are at stake. black men must stand up and take responsibility for our actions. If you are man enough to lay down with that woman than you should be man enough to handle the consequences of that action. Never expect someone else to take of something you made.
As I watch my son grow from day to day I can’t understand why someone would not want to be able to witness that. I understand circumstances that may prevent it, but when you don’t even attempt to ty and be a part of your child’s life then something’s wrong. We have to break this cycle of single parents raising kids alone. I was raised by a single mother so I know how hard she struggled, even with my aunts and uncles helping. Because of that I make sure that I am a part of my son’s life no matter what. There are certain things that only a man can teach a boy and only a woman can teach a girl. There were certain things that my mom couldn’t teach me that my uncles needed to step in and take care of. Here’s an example; You’re a single father of a pre teen girl. she has her first period. Now of course as a male you have pretty much little to no expertise in this area. You can read all the books you want but a woman who’s been through this can offer way more insight than you could ever give. Right? Right.
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