Marriage is hard work. I often wonder how couples, like my grandparents, remained together and seemingly happy for a lifetime. I think the two key words were ‘seemingly happy’. Every relationship has it’s ups and downs. I’m sure everyone that is married or has been in a serious relationship has thought about getting out at one point or another. It’s that commitment to stick and stay that can sometimes make the relationship stronger.
Sometimes relationships just don’t work out as planned. Happily ever after turns into happily never after! The real question is; how do you know when to stick and stay and when to cut and run? I don’t think there is one definitive answer for that. I believe it depends on the situation. Some stay for financial reasons, some stay out of convenience or some stay for the sake of the children. There are plenty of reasons, those are just a few. let’s explore these examples a bit.
Staying for financial reasons is probably even more common now because of the recession. A divorce can be expensive and depending upon if there are children and/or multiple assets to be divided, it can drag on for months or even years. Another reason may be that they can’t survive financially separately. At our engagement party my grandfather gave me a bit of advice that I’m sure has been said to every man at some point. “It’s cheaper to keep her” © Johnny Taylor
Staying together for convenience can be similar to the financial decision. Sometimes we become complacent and don’t want to start over or we may think that we can’t do any better. Why start all over only to end up in the same situation? Right? Wrong! Why settle for the court Jester when you could have had the Prince?
This or That? 
If it’s not working for you then it’s time to bounce regardless of the time invested or whatever other excuses.
Often parents will stay together until the children leave are grown. I know my aunt and uncle did this and it was worse on my cousins then if they had just divorced and split custody. They grew up in a household where they saw their parents constantly arguing and disrespecting each other. They then grew up to either think this was okay and the way relationships worked or to think that relationships aren’t worth anything so why get into them. So one of my cousins is a jerk and the other a male whore. Seriously, it is important for parents, to have that mother and father parental unit present int he household but if it the relationship isn’t working then it won’t work. You don’t have to like your partner to be a good mother or father to your child. Those are two separate things.
Bottom line is, if the relationship isn’t working then let it go. everyone involved will be better off in the end. I don’t believe in forcing anything. Whatever shall be shall be. Every family can’t be TV perfect like the Huxtables or as together as the first family.
I’m just saying, that’s just how I see it and my take on it. What say you?
Peace
Sincere
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